An interactive discussion between the moderator and members of the bed briefing family on the topic: WHY NOT CONSIDER HER BEFORE HIM?
THE WORRIES OF FEMINISM: A CRITICAL APPRAISAL
Date: 19th November 2020
Time : 7:00 pm
Venue: Bed Briefing House via telegram
Moderator: Miss Jennifer Ezema
Collator: Miss Benita Aniebo
In the western history, women were confined to domestic sphere, while public life was reserved for men. In other places including Nigeria, women were denied the right to vote, hold offices, they had to face harmful traditional practices and in some cases were prevented from conducting business without a male figure.
There came the wave of feminism which FORMALLY started at Seneca falls convention in 1848. Ever since then, the movement has continued till date. And today we have what is called modern feminism.
Feminism is the belief in the social, political and economic equality of the sexes. Though most feminists are women, The essential feminist belief can be held by anyone regardless of sex which means men can be feminists.
What do you think is the central idea of feminism?
Actually the central idea of Feminism is on the establishment and sustainability of Gender equality in the society. Ok general concept to feminism is that concept that human seeks equality with men but that is a wrong notion. Misconception I mean here lies on the fact that most people see this feminism thing as women raising shoulders and heights over men and over who is highly above which is wrong. It seeks to engage the woman as a person with full right and dignity to compete with the male counterpart in a society where woman are not relegated to the back ground.
Can this equality be attained?
I believe it can but on the basis of what the society should understand as feminist goals and objectives. I also believes we the people from Africa is yet to understand rationale behind feminism. Equality is vague and broad. Even among men all men are not equal.
Firstly, we have to understand that the woman shouldn’t be seen as less human being who is fragile and weak. Goals of empowering women to stand firm as a person who has goals other than get married and cook and born children. The goals that the life of a woman doesn’t move only on anticipating their wedding day.
Do you believe feminism has helped the world in any way?
Of course i do. The feminist movement has effected change in Western society, including women’s suffrage; greater access to education; more equitable pay with men; the right to initiate divorce proceedings; the right of women to make individual decisions regarding pregnancy (including access to contraceptives; and the right to own property. that feminism has reduced domestic violence, especially against men as their likelihood of being killed by a female intimate partner.
Since feminism has contributed this much, why do most people detest feminists and tend to consider them weird ?
Very simple! No proper knowledge about feminism or its goals.
Do you believe our culture is also making feminism look so unusual?
Our culture is of the patriarchal nature but we can rewrite the narratives. Feminism needs to be understood by people of the society.
When we talk of gender inequality, are men also victims of inequality?
Yes! Men also get assulted, molested, abused, even raped. Men are also bullied by women in places of power.
In the quest for equality most feminists prefer GENDER NEUTRAL TERMS. A Gender neutral term is a term that avoids bias towards a particular sex or social gender . For example, the words policeman and chairman are gender-specific ; the gender-neutral terms are police officer and chairperson since women also take up this duties as well. Some are just against the gender consciousness.
Gender roles in society means how we’re expected to act, speak, dress, groom, carry out assignments and conduct ourselves based upon our assigned sex.
Should basic life skills like cooking and cleaning be considered roles of a gender?
Basic life skills should never be considered as Gender roles. I think the whole idea of Gender role is why the objectification of women still thrive in our society today. Cooking and cleaning are basic skills everyone should learn. Being clean and hygienic is a basic necessity and there is no gender role for that.Thinking that skills like this is a gender role is a misconception that should no longer exist.
Really, but won’t these things show qualities of a wife material?
That’s the damaged yard stick the society uses to measure what a wife should be like. It’s disheartening.
A family with 2 sons and 2 daughters couldn’t afford school fees of them all. They decided to sponsor two most intelligent which were the two sons, do you consider this gender equality or gender equity?
I consider it Gender inequality in the highest order. If not what makes the parents think the girls are not intelligent.
For the Christians, is the concept of gender equality against the Christian belief ?
I don’t think its against the christian belief. Everyone is equal before God.
In conclusion, people are entitled to their own opinion but in all I believe we should seek moderation and avoid being extremists in any aspects. We should also never deny anyone of what they should gain simply because of gender.
God bless you!